1. It is easy for me to be close and connected with people in my life.

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2. I take it personally when a person who is important to me makes plans with other people.

1 2 3 4

3. I feel stressed when people in my life approach me and want to connect.

1 2 3 4

4. I seek approval and reassurance from others.

1 2 3 4

5. If I hit a glitch with a person who is important to me, it is easy for me to apologize and smooth over our differences.

1 2 3 4

6. I have difficulty identifying and achieving goals in life.

1 2 3 4

7. I minimize the importance of close relationships in my life.

1 2 3 4

8. I tend to lose myself by over-focusing on others in relationships.

1 2 3 4

9. I feel problems I face daily are unresolvable.

1 2 3 4

10. I have difficulty reaching out for help and do many of life's tasks alone.

1 2 3 4

11. I am comfortable using alone time to learn more about myself.

1 2 3 4

12. It is difficult for me to set realistic boundaries.

1 2 3 4

13. I attempt to discover and meet the needs of important people in my life.

1 2 3 4

14. I feel more comfortable giving help than receiving it.

1 2 3 4

15. I second-guess myself,wishing I had said or done something differently.

1 2 3 4

16. I have an exaggerated startle response when others approach me unexpectedly.

1 2 3 4

17. I prefer to have space away from important people in my life unless I invite the connection.

1 2 3 4

18. Important people in my life comment that I am controlling.

1 2 3 4

19. Important people in my life complain that I am too clingy.

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20. I prefer casual rather than committed relationships.

1 2 3 4

21. I have difficulty believing I am worthy of the love that important people in my life express.

1 2 3 4

22. I expect the worst to happen in my relationships.

1 2 3 4

23. I feel comfortable expressing my own needs.

1 2 3 4

24. It is hard for me to be left alone because I feel stressed, abandoned, hurt, and/or angry.

1 2 3 4

25. I prefer relationships with things or animals instead of people.

1 2 3 4

26. I am able to set goals and work toward achieving them.

1 2 3 4

27. I disconnect, dissociate, or get confused when remembering difficult childhood experiences.

1 2 3 4

28. I tend to alternate between being overly dependent on important people in my life and pulling away completely.

1 2 3 4

29. I believe I have a purpose in life that impacts the world around me.

1 2 3 4

30. I find it difficult to maintain eye contact with others.

1 2 3 4

31. I express my feelings in a healthy way.

1 2 3 4

32. In high-stress situations I resort to Fight,Flight or Freeze responses.

1 2 3 4

33. It is easier for me to think things through rationally than to express myself emotionally.

1 2 3 4

34. It is easy for me to get engaged in close relationships with other people.

1 2 3 4

35. I tend to become over-emotional and have extreme reactions.

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36. Despite wishing to be close to important people in my life, I have a paralyzing fear of losing the relationships.

1 2 3 4

37. I trust that others will be there for me when I need them.

1 2 3 4

38. When I lose a relationship,I might first experience separation elation and then become depressed.

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39. I would like to have closer relationships with other people,but I find it difficult to trust them.

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40. I feel upset when facing criticism or disapproval.

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Attachment Style Quiz